4 Reasons not regret your past decisions

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Regret is often the outcome of failure.

However, it can also be the result of a poor decision.

Sometimes it’s a hard lesson learned.

Regret, at its core, is an emotion.

But you do not have to feel regret at all when you think of your past decisions that turned out less than perfect.

You might even need to be thankful that it happened.

1. Character Building

Failure, poor decisions, it all builds character.

Our character is continuously changed and shaped throughout our lifetime.

The most authentic way of building character is through experience.

The experiences you have, good and bad, will ultimately shape your personality into a better and more robust version of what you started with.

2. There’s a Reason for Everything

“Everything happens for a reason” is a super cliché, but it’s the truth.

Be it a bad relationship or a mistake on an important project or school assignment.

There is a reason why it happened.

Sometimes that reason is just learning a lesson (start early on a big project), or maybe that bad relationship allowed you to meet the love of your life.

When regret weighs heavy, take a step back and look at the big, interlocking picture of your life.

3. Lessons Learned

We all have to learn lessons.

That’s just a fact of life.

Instead of feeling remorse for every past decision, you have made.

Look back at all the lessons you have learned and the wisdom you now have to move forward more prepared than when you started.

Be thankful for the opportunity to learn.

4. Success Isn’t Free

The reality is no success is free.

For every achievement you see, someone somewhere had to pay for it.

Therefore, it stands to reason that you are going to pay for success as well.

For every failure you experience and every regret you feel, you are that much closer to having paid your dues and learned your lessons.

It’s simply another experiential tool you will need in your toolbox to make your success a reality.

Regret and success are fickle creatures.

You cannot have one without the other.

However, we can become so distracted in our remorse that we can’t see the success that’s just around the corner.

And with each failure, we’ve marked off another way of how not to do something.

Reframing your regret will open up a new world of possibilities for your past decisions and future self.

Failures are opportunities

To see failure as an opportunity is not putting a Pollyanna spin on reality.

It’s accepting that everyone fails, and you can choose to learn from your mistakes, or you can stay stuck in them.

Failure will help you be kinder to yourself.

Seeing failure in its proper light will make you more forgiving of your flaws.

You will be less of a perfectionist and be less prone to self-doubt.

And that, in turn, will build your self-confidence and make you more likely to succeed!

So, embrace failure, learn from it and use it as a stepping stone to success.

About Mark Csabai

Mark Laszlo Csabai is a Certified Life Coach and NLP Practitioner at Mind in Motion based in Bloemfontein, South Africa, where he is currently exploring topics related to self-development and mindset strategies. In his free time, you can find him painting, learning guitar, listening to music or eating crumpets and peanut butter.