Forget being a perfectionist

I’ve always believed that if you do something, do it “right” otherwise don’t do it at all.

Now this belief isn’t necessarily a bad belief.

However when it starts to fringe on doing things ‘perfectly’, then I normally end up procrastinating or simply not doing it at all.

In many ways, I’ve become a perfectionist, and this is not good for my happiness or health, in fact, it’s hindering me becoming more successful.

Please understand, being precise or accurate are good qualities.

But if you continually strive for the highest goals where failure is not an option then perfectionism is unhealthy.

I would like to share with you some insights that I have gleaned from my experience as a perfectionist.

Shockingly, being a perfectionist is many times caused by fear.

Fear of failure, fear of letting go or fear of not getting the approval you need.

You use your perfectionism to get success, approval or love.

Because perfectionists are focused on not making any mistakes, they;

  • are usually less productive and effective
  • easily get lost in the little details of something
  • leave little room for creativity, fun and personal growth
  • believe you need perfectionism to be happy
  • you only deserve love if you’re perfect
  • feel people are always disappointing them
  • they becoming irritable and controlling

Here are some tips to help you become less of a perfectionist:

The first step you have to take is to acknowledge that you are a perfectionist.

You cannot change what you don’t acknowledge, so, this step is very important.

After this, you can begin challenging your thoughts by asking yourself questions like:

  • What am I afraid of?
  • What is the worst thing that can happen?
  • Are my expectations unrealistic?
  • Do I judge myself unfairly?
  • Am I critical of myself and others?

In summary

Keep in mind perfectionism in itself isn’t really the problem; allowing it to dominate your life can be and will jeopardize your health and well-being.

Dealing with the negative side-effects of perfectionism will improve your productivity without compromising your pursuit of excellence.

Simply allow yourself to flow into each moment of the day, like water; put an end to the idea that perfectionism is the go-to mindset for success and happiness.

About Mark Csabai

Mark Csabai is a certified NLP practitioner and Mindset coach. He works with clients locally and internationally. With over twenty years of experience helping people break free from negative thinking and self-sabotaging behaviour. Mark is able to facilitate deep inner changes that will ultimately sky-rocket you to the next level of your life.He will help you formulate the desired outcome for the process of change to move you from where you are to where you want to be.