Discovering your core values

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How to discover your core values 

Core values and how to discover them. One way to honestly know yourself is to get in touch with your own set of values.

It’s easy to get distracted by others’ ideas and claim that they’re your own because of specific pressures in society.

However, you must have your own set of principles and morals so you can stand firm in your beliefs.

Your values are simply the things that are most important to you at the core.

It’s the unwavering belief in what you stand for.

When you know your values, you can live a happier life, a more fulfilling life doing what’s most important to you.

Core values where do they come from?

Our values evolve from our experiences with the external world.

Some that become ingrained at an early age may be resistant to change and may be considered our core values.

Others will change as we continue to go through life.

Your attitude, behaviour, likes, dislikes and even goals are grounded in your values.

Values dictate what you will wear, watch, what job you will do and even who you will marry and whether you will have children.

Your values will determine the response your brain will make in any given situation.

Values are the driving force behind our decisions and judgements.

Our perceptions of what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are derived from whether something aligns with our values or not.

Keep in mind that values are neither good nor bad.

Expanding your mind through visualisations

A practical method of identifying your values is to imagine your future.

Take the time to reflect on different areas of your life.

It could be in your work, in your relationships or simply what you do at home.

Where do you see yourself as you get older?

What are the things that are most important to you?

What do you hope to accomplish in life?

Answering these questions will help you discover your values.

For example, suppose you imagine growing old close to your family and spending time with your grandkids.

In that case, a strong sense of family is one of your core values.

You can have many values in life; however, you must determine which ones are your top priorities.

As a result, you can feel confident at the end of each day that you are nurturing the most important aspects of your life.

Here are some popular Values

There are specific values that many people feel are important.

You might find that they’re significant to you, too, as part of your core beliefs.

These principles may help guide you in determining your values:

  1. Adventure: Are you a thrill-seeker? Do you like to travel? If things seem to get too stale, do you eventually feel bored?
    If so, you may have adventure close to your heart, and you’d be happiest with trying new experiences and new ways of doing everyday things.
  2. Relationships: Valuing relationships includes finding all relationships necessary, in addition to your romantic ones.
    If you value caring relationships, it may be those with any family member or friend.
    Valuing personal connections means you hold your interactions with your loved ones and others as very important in your life.
    To foster this value, spend plenty of quality time and effort on strengthening your relationships.
  3. Spirituality: Suppose you align with a particular religion or spiritual practice.
    In that case, the beliefs of that practice are likely very close to your heart.
    You may find greater fulfilment by spending your time studying and practising your spiritual explorations.
  4. Creativity: Creative thinking helps the world in many ways, but it’s not a core value for everyone.
    If you enjoy discovering and creating new things, perhaps it is one of your values.
    Try thinking outside the box while doing something you love, such as poetry, music, or painting.
  5. Making a mark on the world: Most people will say that, in the end, they want others to remember them warmly.
    There are many ways to make your mark on the world if that’s one of your core values.
    You can help others through volunteer work; you can create something new to help the world at large.
    Or you can be a positive influence on others, and much more.

What makes you truly happy?

All you need to do to discover your values is find what makes you truly happy.

What gets you out of bed in the morning.

Then ask yourself why those things bring you joy.

The answers will lead you to your core values.

It’s not too late to change direction.

If you feel like your life has taken a wrong turn, you can figure it all out by thinking about your future.

The question is, are you helping your future self by walking down your current path?

If the answer is no, perhaps it’s time to consider taking a new approach based on your core values.

When you do, that path will likely lead you to fulfilment and happiness!

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About Mark Csabai

Mark Laszlo Csabai is a Certified Life Coach and NLP Practitioner at Mind in Motion based in Bloemfontein, South Africa, where he is currently exploring topics related to self-development and mindset strategies. In his free time, you can find him painting, learning guitar, listening to music or eating crumpets and peanut butter.