Tough Day? Try these 4 simple ways to be kind to yourself

Tough Day? Take action

Some days are just merely tough and challenging.

You wake up feeling grumpy, irritable, and tired.

The day seems to get worse from here onward.

Your phone is flat, you’re late for work, and there’s no hot water due to a power failure.

To top everything off, you can’t find your presentation notes for your sales meeting.

Today is the day you wish you could stay in bed and forget everything.

If you’re having one of “those days,” stop for a minute, take a couple of deep breaths and practice some self-kindness.

Bad things happen, there’s no turning the clock back; however, you can turn the rest of the day around.

I’m going to share with you four simple things that will halt that tough day momentum immediately.

1. Take a little time out

This is one of the quickest and simplest ways to deal with a tough day.

Stop the spiral by taking some time out, simple as it seems; but taking a quick break will immediately prevent your mind from overthinking the negative.

Simply celebrate getting through!

If possible, get out of the office or room, if not, look out the window and take a couple of deep breaths.

The idea is to distract the negative processes going on in your mind and refocus on the positives in the situation.

Listen to some calming music for a few minutes, drink some herbal tea or water.

Do something that will allow you to regather your thoughts, so you feel calmer and more in control.

2. Plan a treat

Should your day being going from rough to harsh, it’s time to plan something luxurious and relaxing.

Going out to dinner with your partner or friend seems to work well, or book a short break-away to somewhere in nature, it doesn’t have to be far from home.

It may be as simple as taking a long soaking bath surrounded by candles and some calming fragrances.

It’s important to give yourself something to look forward to doing.

3. Reset your self-talk

Stop and become aware of how you’re talking to yourself.

What kind of words are you using? Are they harmful and disempowering?

Are words like ‘you’re always’ or ‘you’re never’ popping up? Maybe phrases like ‘you’re no good,’ or ‘why can’t you’?

It’s essential to reset your inner critic to your internal champion and turn the negative self-talk around.

I’m sure you wouldn’t talk to your friend like that.

Not a chance! So, be kind to yourself.

Everyone has a bad day, you need nurturing, not beating up!

4. Celebrate the small victories

Sometimes it may feel like a fantastic victory to get through the day!

If you’re having a tough day, write down your successes, whether big or small.

Think about this for a moment, if you took time to have lunch, went to the gym, walked the dog, spent some time with your family, you’re on a winning streak!

Give yourself some credit and pat yourself on the back for all the checks on your list.

You may want to consider all the bad things that didn’t happen.

Sometimes a little change in perspective is all that is needed to get through a tough day.

I’m always amazed and deeply thankful at how fortunate I am in comparison to many people.

Let’s celebrate the victories and successes, no matter how small and reset our focus on the things that go well in our lives.

Simpy celebrate getting through!

About Mark Csabai

Mark Csabai is a certified NLP practitioner and Mindset coach. He works with clients locally and internationally. With over twenty years of experience helping people break free from negative thinking and self-sabotaging behaviour. Mark is able to facilitate deep inner changes that will ultimately sky-rocket you to the next level of your life.He will help you formulate the desired outcome for the process of change to move you from where you are to where you want to be.